7 Things to STOP Doing to Help Your Child’s Development
Small changes to help your child thrive
At Playful Paediatrics, we know that parents are doing their best every single day. We also know that sometimes, small changes in how we support our children can make a big difference—especially when it comes to communication and connection.
From my perspective as speech pathologist, here are seven everyday habits you might want to rethink—along with what to do instead to boost your child’s speech, language, communication and overall development.
1. Give Them Time to Talk
It can be tempting to finish your child’s sentence or speak on their behalf—especially if they’re pausing, struggling to find words, or feeling shy. But when we jump in too quickly, we take away the opportunity for them to practise their own communication skills.
🟢 Try this instead: Pause, wait, and give them space. Even if it feels like forever, that extra few seconds might be exactly what they need to find their words and feel successful.
2. Prioritise Face-to-Face Interaction Over Screens
We know screens can be useful tools for learning and entertainment (and, let’s face it—getting dinner on the table!). But too much screen time can limit real-world interaction, which is crucial for developing communication, social skills and connections.
🟢 Try this instead: Build in daily screen-free time focused on play, storytelling, or chatting during everyday routines like mealtimes or bath time.
3. Use Real Words Instead of ‘Baby Talk’
While baby talk might sound sweet, it’s not always helpful for language development—especially once your child is past the baby stage. Using clear, simple language helps them learn how words and sentences are put together.
🟢 Try this instead: Model real words in context. Instead of “Want wa-wa?”, try, “Would you like some water?”
4. Reduce the Question Pressure
We all love asking questions—it shows interest, right? But too many questions can feel overwhelming for children, especially if they’re still learning how to respond. This can shut down conversation instead of encouraging it.
🟢 Try this instead: Balance your questions with comments. Say what you see, think, or feel: “You’re building such a tall tower!” This opens the door for your child to join in the conversation without the pressure of having the “right” answer.
5. Let Go of Perfection
Young children are constantly learning and experimenting with language. Making mistakes (like saying “I goed” instead of “I went”) is a completely normal and important part of development.
🟢 Try this instead: Gently model the correct version without pointing out the error. If your child says, “I goed to the park,” respond with, “You went to the park? That sounds like fun!”
6. Be Present in Play
We get it—life is busy and multitasking feels like a must. But when you’re fully present in play, even for 10 minutes a day, it tells your child: You matter. I’m here. That connection builds trust and supports learning.
🟢 Try this instead: Put the phone down, get on their level, and follow their lead in play. Let them take the reins, and join their world for a few moments of shared joy and true connection.
7. Focus on Progress, Not Comparison
It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing your child to others—especially when you hear what other children are doing at the same age. But every child develops at their own pace, and progress looks different for everyone.
🟢 Try this instead: Celebrate your child’s wins—big and small. If you’re unsure whether they’re on track, a speech pathologist can provide gentle guidance and reassurance.
Supporting your child’s development doesn’t require perfection—it’s about creating meaningful moments of connection and communication throughout the day. By making small, positive shifts in how you interact, you’re laying the foundation for confidence, learning, and a love of communication.
If you ever need support, guidance, or just someone to chat to—we’re here.
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Play, Engage, Connect
~ Holly
(Principal Speech Pathologist)